Thank you very muchâ€¦you’ve made my point far more articulately than I was managing toâ€¦as usual my attempts at explication simply resulted in me shoving my foot further and further down my throat.
What I was attempting to point out (badly) was that there are still a few (or more than a few) militant â€œFemiNazisâ€ (I hate the term too, but occasionally it fitsâ€¦) who use overly confrontational tactics to get their way in whatever male-dominated arena, using their femininity to cry â€œdiscrimination!â€ when a decision really was made innocently, or to try to set their female compatriots above other members of their profession based on their femininity (equal rights versus special rights). I had a run-in with one recently; she made me so mad it’s taken me a quite a while to sort out exactly why she made me so mad.
Women like that tend to give all women in their profession a bad name; there’s a backlash effect where resentment toward nonexistent discrimination creates discrimination where it wasn’t before. Like insisting on gender-neutral pronouns ALL THE TIME, PC police behavior (as distinct from couth office duty), or that female firefighters are more capable (and should be promoted faster) than their male compatriots because they overcame greater obstacles to get into fire service in the first place. I know for a fact that this woman made my life more difficult on getting into fire because the male firefighters around me were incredibly nervous around me; they were expecting me to jump down their throats for the slightest slip in PC. Once they figured out that calling me â€œone of the guysâ€ wasn’t going to elicit any negative response, life got a lot easier for everybody. And I personally think that a more comfortable crew is a safer crew because communication flows more easily.
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