Bambi, telling us about your FF has reminded me of several such events in our lives and we survived. Our marriage has lasted longer than most of you have been alive. And, sorry to disappoint you ladies but some things are better and some things are the same. I can assure you, your guy absolutely means it when he says he loves you and you are the most important thing in his life. of course he means it, when he is on the phone with you or snuggling at home with you.
BUT……..I can assure you when those fires start popping up out there his brain goes to mush and he loses all connection with reality and he HAS to go!!!!!! if he didn’t he would dissolve right there where he stands in a puddle of charcoal and dirty water…….doesn’t mean we are not important and they don’t love us. It is like a moth to the flame literally. I have no answer for the FF disease. It is incurable, and wrecks homes and relationships all the time. FF are a breed of people that cannot be described because they are all different and exactly alike.
Over the years I have learned to manage a lot of life by myself. Some of it can wait on him but a lot I can do or get done. Bottom line……is he worth the trouble to you??? Of course he is……so we just find a way to adapt and overcome. Now, we certainly have the right to throw a foot stomping hissy-fit when provoked past our level of tolerance…….so givem hell then -givem loving. It will be ok……he is worth it……Soppy Sammi who just talked to her FF and found out he will not be home for the three dayer I have off like he thought. So I am gonna enlist a friend and go to Canada to the hot springs like Fire momma suggested….anyone close to North Idaho want to go…….