My gut instinct, not knowing the guy, would be to say wait for the visit. It sounds to me that youâ€™ve got a good guy who got caught up in the crew social whirl and spaced the call…or considered things pretty well worked out base don your earlier call. Iâ€™m not saying he didnâ€™t goof up big; Iâ€™m saying it doesnâ€™t sound UTTERLY inexcusable. I wouldnâ€™t kick him to the curb just yet, and I wouldnâ€™t nurse a grudge…but I wouldnâ€™t make any decisions at all until youâ€™re face to face. Conversations without body language get muddled awful fast.
One thing though…Iâ€™ve always found it tough to wait for those face-to-faces with an open mind/heart…if you let resentment build up, you wonâ€™t be going into your talk with a fair frame of mind, and thatâ€™ll just mess everything up. He sounds like heâ€™s more than ready to make big concessions to make the â€˜yâ€™allâ€™ work…at least give him a chance to walk the walk if heâ€™s willing to talk the talk.
Youâ€™re mad right now (and gawd knows I would be)…but as far as relationship crimes go, in my book this is a pretty little one. Take the time to find out if the tip of an iceberg or just a chunk in the frozen margarita of life.
Nerd on the Fireline