A lot of varying advice for Tonya.
I have to say though, after years and years of this stuff, I have to agree with Fire Chica. Relationships are a participatory activity. “Either you’re in or you’re out.” Yes, it’s important to understand – and to a certain extent accept and accommodate – a FF lifestyle. But, its no reason to accept what is unacceptable. Relationships take work from all sides involved. It’s important to remember though, we are all very different, with very different thresholds of what we will accept. Also, I guess I’m looking at this from inside a marriage, which has its own parameters or “rules of the road.”
Tonya, good luck girl. Listen to the others’ who are encouraging you to hold steady to composure. I would just be being hypocritical because its not something I could pull off. I’d probably head up the steepest hill I could find for a hike. Better use of my energy.