It wasn’t really clear, Tonya, what you meant by helping you “get your family off of your back.” Are you having a tough time working because your mind is distracted? That certainly is understandable, but I agree with Sammi, if that’s the case…get busy.
Secondly, (I think it was Sammi, but not sure) someone made the suggestion that putting a map on the fridge or wall with newspaper clippings helped their kids feel like they knew where Dad was. Now you can even download Fire Incident specific pics off the internet. Perhaps doing the same thing would help your family empathize? If something or someone is “out of sight” they’re often “out of mind” if they are not a SO. Maybe putting this information out in a non-invasive way would help your family situation. They might find the location where Jon is interesting…I don’t know. Just a thought.