Actually, I think it has a lot to do with how your significant other treats you, either at home or when on assignment. Are they involved in the day to day stuff when they are around, in touch and interested in home life when on a fire? A FF with this type of attitude is a keeper -is able to balance passion for both work and family, although OF COURSE there are times it won’t be easy. But-so what? Anything worth doing is usually not all that easy….
Or is your FF so lost in the lifestyle that you hardly register on the radar screen, even when they are home? Do they look at it as an opportunity to avoid family responsibilities? Avoid this type if you are interested in anything long term.
It could be at whole lot worse folks-at least our FF have a better chance of reaching home then the soldiers in Iraq, some of whom haven’t been home in a year.