Just an observation…AK, you probably wouldn’t want to walk into a room full of FF wives or husbands slinging the kind of philosophy you just posted. Perhaps that works for you, and if so, kudos back at cha for being honest with yourself regarding your own shortcomings. Many of us though, met our FF spouses when we were all young and not as “focused” as you seem to be on what does and does not make for a successful relationship. Most of us didn’t have children…or homes then. We just had one another… and our companions had fire. We did the best we could, and many of us came up short in terms of answers. I guess you can count yourself lucky you’ve got it all figured out. For me, even with all the rough spots and the ultimate demise of our relationship, I wouldn’t have traded it for the world.
Some folks make relationships work. Some don’t. There are no pat answers. And, as Ab gently suggested, but I’ll just say…trite answers are offensive.
Readers of familysaid, a post came in that I didn’t post here. Read theysaid for 7/20 and search on AK if you’re interested in what the Fire Momma is talking about.