Thanks to all who responded about my son & his wife.
I think his situation is just a little different because this is not his wife’s primary job and she wasn’t doing this when they got married. She’s not on the line, she in a support position (not to say those positions are any less important) and enjoys the travel and comradery. And, in a way, it’s like a vacation… even tho the work is hard and the hours are long, it’s a different scenario and the focus is on one thing… fire. At home, there are a thousand and one other things in the day to day job as well as day to day homefront. So, in a sense, she’s away from the “responsibilities”.
At first, he was very supportive… go for it… enjoy. But as time goes on, it’s becoming a bigger part of her life because of the training and meetings as well as the actual fire details. He still wants to support her, but feels like she could say no at least once in awhile. Yes, the money is nice and they both enjoy it, but they could also do well without it. And he does do things when she’s gone… rebuilding cars, visiting friends, etc. But because he’s never been in the actual situation, he can’t imagine what it’s like.
You know, it would be nice if someone would make a video… like a training video… about life in a fire camp or what goes on behind the scenes. I know I was amazed my first time out, when I realized what all it takes to get things going… like showers, meals, potties, sleeping arrangements, etc. It might even make a good recruitment video.