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  • 08/03/2002
  • WildlandFire.com Team
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Dear Robbie
I know exactly how your sister’s boyfriend feels. Maybe I’m speaking out of turn, but being the one waiting is a terribly difficult position, at least for me. It’s frustrating to be put so low on the one you love’s priority list, let alone for 3-6 months.
I am afraid that the patience and faithfulness, and the loneliness we endure is often underappreciated, as well as downplayed in comparison to the rough life our Fire Fighters are living. As I’m sure that you have seen on this site…everyone is so quick to defend them in their choice to “Fight the good fight.”
Please let him know that he is not alone and that its okay to feel neglected…but that these feelings of neglect will cause him nothing but resentment if not talked about and dealt with with his girlfriend. Everyone has needs. Even the ones left at home waiting…if both peoples needs aren’t met…thats where the big problems develop.
Dawn, no offense but just the fact that you are there, holding down the fort and longing for your husband, should make the homecoming special enough. He’s a lucky man…I just hope he realizes it.
We all make choices. We choose what we do, and how we deal with it. But you don’t have to justify your emotions. In the wise words of my boyfriend’s sister “Feelings are never right or wrong, they just are.”
And I offer you my support.


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